on’t just sit in household life doing the duties of a 20, 35, 40 year old man. Don’t sit simply waiting for the grandchildren to come. Don’t do that! Life is too short! At a point you need to be finished with all that. But of course, the parents will say they want to be there for the children etc etc. Don’t just be there to give them bread and butter – be there as a spiritual example also. That’s the key! Then the next stage is vānaprastha. That means leaving home, travelling, and giving away your things.
Śrīla Prabhupāda says, pañcaśordhvaṁ vanaṁ vrajet – “At the age of 50, one should go to the forest.” That means detachment from family life. Prabhupāda set the example – he left home, took vānaprastha and then took sannyāsa. So at the very least, at the age of 50 or 60, one should leave home, leave the comforts of family life, and take vānaprastha. But an attached man wants to die surrounded by his family. Prabhupāda writes in the Bhāgavatam that if a man suddenly leaves home and dies without his family’s knowing, that is actually a glorious death.